Friendship Goals
Friendship Goals
Getting to know me through my friends' list:
I have often been asked in interviews, "If your friends could describe you in one word, what would it be?" And my answer was always the same. They would say I am loyal. There's a saying that goes, "show me your friends, and I'll tell you who you are." If you should see my list, it will give you insights into who I am. My longest friendship is a whopping 30 plus years, so pretty much all my life. And the shortest lasted ten years.
Let's take a look at the list:
My childhood best friend: This is my original BFF. When we were kids, every little note or card we exchanged, we would write at the end, "Friends til the Virgin Islands conceive." Silly, I know, but you get the point. We have been friends since we were seven years old; we met in primary (elementary) school and have different versions of how we became friends, but let's just say we had a little fight and were inseparable after. Every day we would travel to school together, wait on each other, and then head home together. We later lived together (before I moved to Canada), cried together, laughed together, had a few disagreements together, but always came back together. She is my secret keeper and has seen me through the worst and best years of my life. She is that one friend that's become family – the kids' auntie, my mom's second daughter, my sister. Ultimately, the friend that will never be replaced.
My high school best friends: These are my friends that saw me through my best years. We were the original "high school best friend" crew. We crossed every teenage milestone together. Every weekend, we would take random trips to the beach. We would go hiking, participating in swim meets, and so much more. These friends (other than my BFF) know me more than anyone else. Always supportive, no matter my decisions. And though we live in different parts of the world now, we never skip a beat whenever we meet.
My best male friends: These are the guys, my "bredrins" (a Jamaican term used for the cool guys), the one that is close enough to be your best friend but not your boyfriend. The one that will trust you with his secrets and will call you randomly to talk for hours. They are a special group of men who help bring balance to my life.
My brother: My sidekick, my protector, my blood, my ride or die! Well, he would say, no dying here, so let's say my ride or live! Growing up, my eldest brother and I were inseparable just being a few years apart in age. In my mind, I was the only girl (I do have an older sister), and then years later, my little brother came along. He is my biggest supporter. If you know me, you have heard a lot about my brothers. I am like the rose among thorns, and they both act as if they are the main men in my life. The younger one will fight first then ask questions later. The older one will ask questions, then fight...but don't give him a reason to defend me – he will. I feel blessed knowing that I can call them at any time, and they will catch the first flight or drive across town to be there.
The young (er) friends: One was my maid of honour and the other, I call my little sister. They are the sweetest and most caring friends. Don't be fooled by the age difference; my maid of honour is an old soul, and my little sister is like a small giant. Both have a special place in my heart. They have both seen me through my worst years, but we can now say we made it!
My Jamaican hairstylist: We met back when I was looking for a stylist to do ‘black’ hair. At first it was a business relationship but the more we shared with each other, the more we discovered how much we had in common. Like the fact that we are both Jamaicans and enjoy a good conversation in “Patois” (The Jamaican dialect). It makes us feel at home and at ease. My appointments are usually longer than normal. Even my husband joked that before he met me, he didn’t know that it could take a whole day for one person to style their hair. My stylist and I have a special connection; we are the same age, became young mothers with three children, and they all are the same ages. We often call each on other for advice when it comes to our children or just about anything. I look forward to my appointments, and there's no doubt she’ll be my forever stylist and friend.
My Canadian friends: These are friends that I've met either through working in Canada or going to college in Canada. I am their relationship advisor, matchmaker, counsellor, party planner, fashion designer, and a large part of why I decided to start Sidoney Miceli events.
My husband: My new best friend and the love of my life. The one that came out of nowhere and stirred up my life in the best way possible. I like to call him my unexpected necessity.
Why have I shared this? Over the years, I've maintained a handful of friendships; these are the ones that are constant in my life. We often get caught up in the unrealistic goals of friendship and life on social media. At the end of the day, it's about the real ones that pick you up when you're down, and who will be down to celebrate when you're up. Now that's #friendshipgoals
Sincerely,
Sid